When I was in the 7th grade, I had a huge growth spurt.  When I would walk down the hall, I could see the tops of everyone’s heads.  From the time I was in kindergarten, I had always been one of the tallest girls in my class but this seemed different.   

One day, just before my Spanish class started, I was chatting with my best friend and happened to look down at my feet—with the new, stylish, blue, shoes—they looked huge!  What happened? How did my feet get so big?  I became so embarrassed that I hid my feet quickly under the desk, hoping that no one would notice me.  

OK, now fast forward 30 plus years.  Periodically, that memory flashes back in my mind.  Not once in my awkward, teenage years did anyone mention anything about my big feet.  So, why did I worry so much about what I thought other people were thinking?  People liked me for my awesome personality–not my big feet.  

 Why do I bring up feet when we’re supposed to be talking about pants?  It’s because no one knows your pant size unless you tell them.  Most of the people I know worry way too much about how they look and what other people may be thinking of them.  Stop the worrying right now!  Your friends love you for who you are not what size pants you wear.  

We all have different body types and what looks good on me might not look good on you and visa versa.  Take the time to find some clothes that you feel good in, then go make the most of the life you’ve been given.  **And, no, your feet don’t look big!

I really enjoyed Marquette’s blog about loving our bodies even if they are not perfect.  I’ve been thinking about it a lot in regards to both me, as an adult, and also in regards to younger girls.  I’m not overly obsessed with my body, although I would like to lose some weight.  I rarely, if ever, look at fashion magazines.  But I look at my young teenage nieces and see the influence of this all on them.

I really like Dove’s campaign about Real Beauty.  I was just watching this video below and I look at these young girls and see all they don’t lik about themselves and it’s sad.  We need to empower these girls with self-confidence so that they too can love themselves.  I look at the teenage girls that do actually have some self-confidence and the changes they can make.  If we could teach the younger girls to love themselves for who they are and for their differences, we would have women who also love themselves and their differences.  Here is the video for you to watch:


What do you think?  Do your young daughters or nieces have the self-confidence to make some changes and to believe that they really are beautiful?

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Recently, there was an event I needed to attend where comfy sweats wouldn’t work.  I was in a panic!  What was I going to wear?  This occasion was not dressy enough to wear a dress, but not so casual that I could wear jeans.  My first thought was to just go buy some new pants that fit.  Fortunately, I ended up finding a pair of pants in my closet that I had completely forgotten all about.  They are pants that I love and feel skinny (well skinner) in.

Since that time, Micah and I have been in deep discussion about the highly distressing matter about what to do when your weight has crept up and your pants really don’t fit.  Do you use it as incentive to lose a few pounds or should you purchase a new pair of pants?   

My initial thought was, this is a no-brainer, just go get a new pair of pants.  On the other hand, a couple of days ago, my husband told me he heard Dr. Mehmet Oz say that once you lose weight, you should get rid of all your big clothes.  Micah uses tight pants as incentive to lose a few pounds after the weight has crept up

However, after the unexpected death of a dear neighbor who passed away suddenly, my thoughts crystallized. He had gained quite a bit of weight over the years.  But, as I sat at the funeral and listened while his children shared some of their favorite memories about their dad, not once did they talk about how heavy he was or about the fun things they didn’t do because he had put on weight and didn’t have the right clothes.  No, they talked about the fun times they had when they went snow skiing in the winter and boating in the summer.  I had no idea my friend was a skier or a boater! 

Life is too short to spend much time worrying about how we look.  I bet if you asked someone who knows you, they wouldn’t even remember what you were wearing yesterday.  So why do we beat ourselves up and worry so much about what other people think what we look like?

Don’t waste your precious time worrying.  Spend it on doing the things that you love.  I’ve decided that I will keep exercising and eating healthy food because I feel better when I do. Meanwhile, if the weight does not come off as quickly as I’d like, I’m going to find me a pair of pants that I feel good in.

One of my favorite books is The Power of Positive Thinking by Norman Vincent Peale.  OK, I’ve never actually read the book…but I’ve listened to the CDs so many times I can’t even count.  You would think with as many times as I’ve listened to the CDs that I would be the most positive person on the face of the earth…but I’m not. 🙁  It’s hard to be positive!  But by golly, I’m working on it so scratch that last negative sentence.  And I’m working hard.  It’s amazing how just adding a few small changes, I feel way better about things.

So here’s my question….just how powerful are our minds?  As I’ve listened to these CDs, I keep hearing how powerful our minds are.  To the point that we can make ourselves sick just by our thoughts.  According to Norman Vincent Peale,  “It has been computed that from 50 to 75 percent of present-day people are ill because of the influence of improper mental states on their emotional and physical make-up.”  He goes on to say, “Many people suffer poor health not because of what they eat but from what is eating them.  Emotional ills turn in upon yourself, sapping your energy, reducing your efficiency, causing deterioration in your health.  And of course they siphon off your happiness.”   But this book was originally published in 1952.  That’s a long time ago.  Maybe the power of our minds has changed. 

Not so according to a study in the Circulation: Journal fo the American Heart Association.   There you will find an article entitled, “Optimism appears to lower women’s risk of death, heart disease.”  DALLAS, Aug 10, 2009 – Optimistic women have a lower risk of developing heart disease or dying from any cause compared to pessimistic women, according to research reported in Circulation: Journal of the American Heart Association.

Researchers also reported that women with a high degree of cynical hostility — harboring hostile thoughts toward others or having a general mistrust of people — were at higher risk of dying; however, their risk of developing heart disease was not altered.

“As a physician, I’d like to see people try to reduce their negativity in general,” said Hilary A. Tindle, M.D., M.P.H., lead author of the study and assistant professor of medicine at the University of Pittsburgh. “The majority of evidence suggests that sustained, high degrees of negativity are hazardous to health.”

It has been said that we are just about as happy as we make up our minds to be.  We can choose to be happy or we can choose to be unhappy.  The choice is yours!  The power of positive thinking can change our lives.  So let’s all jump on the happiness bandwagon!!  What do you do to stay positive and be happy?

I think this video portrays exactly what Marquette and I want to get across in our blog.  That we are all beautiful!  Several months ago Marquette told me I needed to go on the Dove website because they had some great videos about real women.  I haven’t taken the time to visit the website but one of my FB friends just posted this video and I loved it!

What’s the difference between you and I and a supermodel??  The fact the we actually eat. :0  But seriously, the ONLY difference is we don’t have a make-up artist or an airbrusher in our bathrooms to get us ready every morning.  I think as women we understand this to an extent.  But I think this would be a great video to show any teenage girls you know as they are the ones to see the full onslaught of the magazines that shout out to them, “You’re Ugly!  You’re Fat!  You’ll never be good enough!”  And these cute, ultra-skinny girls believe it.

I was watching something on TV yesterday while I was at the gym and they were discussing this very thing.  In fact, they said that in France they’re going to start fining magazines that go to far on the whole airbrushing thing and that are using models that are too skinny.  In Germany, a magazine wants to start using “real” women as models.  Now wouldn’t that be refreshing.

I hope you enjoy the video: